Good Girlfriend Behavior: Do This, Not That
Every girl knows the golden relationship rules — like tell your guy how great he is in bed, not how amazing your ex was. But there are other guidelines that aren't so obvious. Behold, the ultimate cheat sheet.
By Bethany Heitman
Hanging with the Guys
Do This: Watch the game with his friends.
Spending an afternoon on the couch with his pals says you're easygoing and cool...and he'll appreciate your making an effort to get to know his boys.
Not That: Cheer really loudly, chug beers, or tell off-color jokes.
Let's put it this way: It's really hard for him to be sexually attracted to someone who reminds him of his buddies.
Giving Him Gifts
Do This: Buy him tickets.
Present him with two tickets to see his favorite team or band and you'll win major points for being thoughtful and creative.
Not That: Get him a sweater.
He gets plenty of clothes from his mom. And you don't want him to associate you with her, do you? Didn't think so.
Leaving Stuff at His Place
Do This: "Forget" your necklace.
Leave behind a pretty, delicate piece of jewelry (such as a little gold necklace) and he'll think of you in similar terms every time he sees it.
Not That: Leave a toothbrush in his bathroom.
An unsolicited toothbrush or other toiletry will give him the impression you're moving too fast — and may freak him out.
Sending Him Texts
Do This: Type "Last night was amazing. Repeat 2night?"
Keeping your message short and provocative will ensure he stays totally intrigued.
Not That: Send a message that's more than two sentences.
To him, texting is for quick communication. Sending him a novel is analogous to a droning phone call.
Displaying PDA
Do This: Give him a quick kiss.
He'll feel proud in front of his buddies if you give him a subtly sexy signal, like pecking him on the cheek or holding on to his arm as you walk.
Not That: Be all over him.
Dudes want to appear tough in public, so if you're always sitting on his lap or trying to make out with him, he'll feel uncomfortable.
Wearing Lingerie
Do This: Wear a matching lace bra and underwear.
Sets that come in white or pastel colors — think lavender or light pink — give him a little peek at what's in store while you still look feminine and innocent.
Not That: Wear something he needs an engineering degree to get off of you. Teddies and little nighties with ties, buckles, and bows are hot, but he’ll be too busy trying to figure out how to get you out of it to notice how amazing you look.
Failing to Orgasm
Do This: Let him know you still enjoyed it.
Giving him a deep kiss when the deed is done shows him that, even though you didn't reach the finish line, it still felt damn good. To up your odds of peaking next time, guide his hand. He'll appreciate the help.
Not That: Fake it.
He will think everything was satisfactory and won't learn what it takes to actually get you off. Now that would be seriously tragic.
Visiting His Parents
Do This: Bring them something homemade.
Showing up with freshly baked oatmeal-raisin cookies shows you spent time thinking about them instead of just swinging by the store. Plus, his mom will be thrilled her son's babe can bake.
Not That: Bestow flowers or anything pricey.
Fresh-cut flowers require the hostess to duck into the kitchen to arrange them, and over-the-top gifts (such as a crazy-expensive bottle of wine or a crystal vase) are, well, over the top.
Going Away for the Weekend
Do This: Go to the beach or the mountains.
In the beginning of a relationship, take an adventure-based trip, like going surfing or snowboarding. The adrenaline rush will boost your bond, and a built-in activity safeguards against awkward downtime.
Not That: Check in to a sleepy bed and breakfast.
Staring at each other over fresh coffee and croissants and going antiquing all day may sound romantic to you, but these kinds of esoteric activities bore most men to death.
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